One of the emotions that people rarely want to acknowledge is jealousy. It can sometimes be masked by resentment, but its root is discontentment. It is impossible to feel contentment and jealousy about the same thing at the same time. So, how does one work on feeling content? Cultivating gratitude and appreciation is the key to feeling content! Instead of comparing yourself to others, recognizing the worth and value of what you have and who you are will transition you into true appreciation and gratitude.
As a teen I participated in many sports, namely volleyball, track and basketball. I was even a dance major for a couple of years. The truth is, I didn’t just participate, I excelled. Even though other people described me as successful, I was not content. I paid a lot of attention to what I didn’t do well or what others did better that I did. My habit of comparing went beyond skills to physical attributes… let’s just say I was not the husky guy on any of the teams I played for. My focus on being “skinny” contributed to a poor evaluation of my worth. If I could go back, I would focus on the strength I had, the friendships I made and the enjoyment of it all.
Unfortunately, we can’t go back. But the good news is, we don’t have to. If you find yourself feeling jealous, consider it an invitation to reflect on all of the good things in your life right now; your unique combination of traits (i.e. humour, compassion, simplicity), your health, family, friends, growth, opportunities to give to others (i.e. time, attention, money, food) and much more. Curing jealousy begins in the mind and trickles down into the heart. It requires continual focus on the things you are grateful for. So, enjoy reflecting on these things each and every day.
Have a great day!!!