After 18 months of blog-less living, I had no idea where to start? “There’s so much to share… do I tell people about the book that will be released soon??? There are so many valuable things I have learned…” From my internal dialogue, you can tell that figuring out where to begin can be challenging at times. Knowing what motivates me and tapping in to the purpose that fuels my decisions helps me find direction! The reason for this blog, in fact, the reason for this website and my entire life is to encourage others to remember what’s most important… our relationships! Many people want to improve their relationships but don’t know how to make the relationships they dream of come true. I want to share some practical steps that will help you turn the relationships you dream of into reality.
Whether it’s our purest ambitions, materialistic tendencies of our culture or the necessities of life, many of the “things” we do end up taking the place of the people in our lives. I think it’s quite easy to get so caught up in pursuing important things that we end up devaluing the interactions with the people in our lives. The following proverb really stood out for me this morning, “A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate.”
Even though a fancy dinner can seem more desirable than a simple bowl of soup, the heart of this proverb is a reminder that the quality of relationship you have with the person you’re with is more important than what you’re eating. Good friends, loving family members and wise advisors make everything in life more valuable. If you aren’t connecting well with the most important people in your life and are missing out on making priceless memories, regardless of what you accomplish, you may end up drained and alone.
I have no idea what I would do without daily enriching conversations with close friends. The smiles and laughter of my wife and daughter are highly contagious and make the most challenging of days worthwhile! When we prioritize people over projects, and connect with others in meaningful ways, there is an enriching exchange that occurs. These kind of interactions make us better people. These kinds of interactions cannot be acquired outside of meaningful relationships.
Am I saying that life all about hanging out with friends and family? Yes, it is! Of course, doing things other than hanging out is important. However, if connecting with others in a rich and genuine way is not the reason behind doing what you do, what is?
So, here are some practical suggestions on how to prioritize people over tasks today:
1. Take a few minutes and make a list of people that mean a lot to you.
2. Jot down one or two things you enjoy and appreciate about them.
3. Recall some memorable moments then…
4. Share those memories.
Whether you share these moments in person, via email or text, doesn’t matter. Just let the important people in your life know that they are more important to you than the things that are on your list of to-dos.
Enjoy and have a great day!